Funny thing. You’d think that a guy like me who practices all kinds of improvement protocols would have tons of experience making New Year’s resolutions. I never have – until now.
Now, I make resolutions all the time. Set goals, achieve them, set new goals, run into trouble, learn some lessons – on and on. But I have never made the kind of goal that looks like “in 2018 I will (do, stop doing, etc. etc.).”
But this year things are different.
I think the reason I’ve never done this before is I just never waited for the calendar roll-over to initiate some activity or other. Usually when I want to make some change I decide, maybe weigh some circumstances, and launch. Weekday, weekends, holidays, whatever.
I’m not saying I’ve achieved all of those goals, but I never waited for the New Year to set a goal – nor was I inspired by the New Year – until this year.
So, what’s different this year?
I’ve already got a bunch of stuff in the works and things are going extremely well.
We had a terrific year at River Run Consulting Group – more customers, more of the right customers, a strategic plan with short and long term goals in place, including what needs to get done in 2018.
Granted, the calendar does have an impact on my business planning, but mostly because our plan includes goals and actions that are reviewed weekly, monthly, and quarterly. Since we review and measure so consistently and regularly, the New Year, per se, doesn’t mean anything to us.
On a personal level, I set some fitness and weight goals during the year and I’m making great progress. Eating right, exercising regularly, all of the metrics are trending to plan.
I’m constantly working on mental improvement. I meditate daily, keep a daily journal to keep me loose and explore ideas – there’s a morning routine and an evening routine. I feel like my mindset is together, and getting better all the time.
The family is doing great. My wife of 21 years and I are still married, which is nothing to sneeze at these days. So many people I know really struggle with their relationship with their spouses.
I’m crazy proud of my kids, who are growing up to be interesting, intelligent, and kind.
What’s different this year is the fact that I’m doing well on a personal and professional level, meaning things are going generally according to plan, just doesn’t seem… well… good enough.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with me in particular – it’s not like I’m incapable of enjoying success (which is a process, after all, not a destination). Maybe it’s like Mario Andretti said, “if everything is under control, you’re not moving fast enough.”
Whatever it is, this idea that “good enough” isn’t good enough certainly isn’t unique to me. I work with many extremely successful people who have achieved amazing things long before they met me, but who still hire us because they want to accomplish even more.
So as the New Year approached I found myself considering what changes I might like to make, even though I kind of thought that I had everything under control.
What occurred to me is that if I continue doing what I’m doing, I can project future results that seem pretty good. But if I want to live a life better than pretty good, if I want to look back on my life and feel like I did my absolute best, it’s not enough to project the future. I’ve got to “will” the future.
Achieving audacious goals doesn’t happen automatically, it happens as a result of willing those results into existence.
Of course, I’m the performance improvement guy, so my resolutions take the form of SMART goals. I’ll be happy to share them with you if you contact me.
But the “headline” of my collected 2018 New Year’s resolutions is this: to Build a Willed Future.
By Doron Abrahami, President of River Run Consulting Group